Are You Ready To Move In With Your Significant Other?
Every relationship is completely different and unfortunately, there’s no handbook on how to do a relationship ‘right’. But sooner or later, you’ll inevitably have the chat about moving in together. It is a major step from only dating each other to sharing your entire life — it takes the relationship to a whole new level! But how do we know when are ready to move in with our partner? Here are some questions to ask yourself — and your partner — to help determine if it’s the right time.
What does your gut say?
Did you know that there is a little brain in your gut, the so-called “second brain’? It’s true! Our gut can tell what and who is right or wrong for us. We just have to interpret our gut feeling the right way. So, how does your gut feel when you think about moving in with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you feel excited and happy? Or does the thought of moving together make you feel a little bit sick and nervous, or even anxious? When you don’t feel ready, it’s because you’re probably not ready and that’s okay. If this is the case, talk to your partner and see if they’re on the same page. On the other hand, even if everyone says it’s too early but you feel like you’re finally coming home then you should go for it girl!
Are you on the same page?
Moving in with your partner is a big step in a relationship and it means it’s getting damn serious. You wanna first make sure that both of you are on the same page. Otherwise, the dream of moving in together could end in a nightmare of arguing which furniture belongs to who if it doesn’t work out. You might want to check in on your partner’s goals. Do you share the same values, passions, dreams? And how do you imagine your life together in 5, 10, 15 years? Are you dreaming about living in different cities around the globe, while he wants to live and die in the same town he was born in? Ask yourself but also your partner if you really see a future together.
Have you spent A LOT of time together?
Before moving in with your loved one, first, try to check what the dynamic is like when you’re spending a lot of time together. It can be a vacation together, or a road trip or a test week of living together. How compatible are you? Do you make a good team or do you always end up fighting? Which brings us to our next point…
Do you fight dirty or clean?
Every couple needs to argue now and then to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. So let’s talk about fights, baby! You’re going to be sitting on each other lap 24/7. Eventually, you will get annoyed or even furious with each other. It’s completely normal to have disagreements — but what’s not okay is to yell, insult or to get physical (It’s a total no go and a sign you are in a toxic relationship).
Cast your mind back to the last time you two fought. What is their ‘fighting style’? Are they a person who needs space and time to cool down but then is willing to talk? Or, are they the stubborn type who can’t admit when they did make a mistake? Do they live, get aggressive or ignore you for a week? Their fighting behavior won’t change when you move in together, so you’d better decide upfront if you are ready to deal with his/her flaws.
Are you willing to compromise?
Where and how you live is going to affect all areas of your life. So it’s a big decision to make. Whether you move in with your partner, your partner moves in with you or you choose a new home together, compromises are inevitably awaiting you. Can you give in or does everything has to go your way? Do you need a lot of time for yourself? This is the time to reflect on how much you and your partner are willing to compromise and what priority your partner has in your life. It’s totally okay if you’re not ready to give up your space just yet, but at least be honest to yourself and your loved one.